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Coping Skills for A Better Life
I don’t know about you, but I remember the day I left school with my little certificate under my arm and thinking, “what now?” I had mixed emotions of being both excited and frightened. I was happy to finally be an ‘adult’, but I was also scared of going out into the wilderness on my own. I had no clue about the most important things to know to survive this life, such as how to deal with difficult people and the difficult situations that I had no idea was to come. Suddenly, there was no parent, teacher or older sibling, to tell me what to do, how to do it – or what to watch out for. And as I slowly and painfully worked things out (mostly the long and hard way), I remember thinking to myself “why didn’t they teach us this at school”
Somehow, I managed to make as minimal mistakes as possible – some people might call it pure luck, but was it? Sure, I was one of the lucky ones who had parents who gave me as much guidance and support as they could, and most of the advice I was given I listened to, but the biggest ‘turning point’ for me was when I completed my Psychology major. I can’t believe how much it actually taught me about life and people! It taught me the life skills that I never learned at school – the important skills that everyone need to have if they want to get the most out of their life, and if they want to become the best person they can be. By the end of this article, you will find out what these essential life skills are, and how valuable they are in your life.
Do you attract the wrong people in your life? Do you get anxious whenever you try to do something challenging and different? Do you feel uncomfortable whenever you have to make changes to your life? Do you worry that people might be thinking badly of you? Are you scared of being yourself around people? Are you scared of being hurt? Do you allow people to walk all over you? Do you find yourself always pleasing others and putting yourself last? Do you find it hard to make decisions for fear of making mistakes? Do you allow people to talk to you disrespectfully? Do you back down from an argument to avoid a conflict? Do you put yourself last? Do you find it hard to balance work and your personal life? Are you hard on yourself? Are you always blaming yourself for everything? Do you worry about being alone? Do you constantly have negative thoughts? Do you put yourself down? Are you scared of meeting new people? Do you feel lost and trapped? Do you always worry unnecessarily? Do you fear rejection and criticism from others?
If you answer ‘yes’ to most of these questions then, it sounds like you might be lacking these skills, and don’t worry so are millions of people out there. So, what are these important ‘life skills’? To put it simply, they are; assertiveness skills, objective analytical skills, and proactive solution-focused problem-solving skills. Now before you stop reading any further because you’re probably thinking that this sounds too complicated, read on because you’ll be surprised how easy these skills really are to develop. Just remember, that everything is easy when it is explained to you in the right way.
So, the skills you need to survive in life are; Assertiveness skills to set boundaries with the people in your life to get the respect and treatment you deserve. Proactive problem-solving skills to resolve situations in an effective way without stress. Objective analytical skills to analyse situations in a fair and accurate way to be able to make the right decisions and right steps to resolve any situation you are challenged with.
If you want to be confident and assertive enough to deal with difficult people and situations, and to develop relationships that will always make you feel valued and worthy; and to be able to make the necessary decisions to get the most out of your life, then you will need to develop these skills.
Life might have been an uphill battle right up to now for you but it doesn’t have to continue to be. For the last 20 years I have treated many people for exactly the same thing. They come in to the first consultation complaining of the same symptoms and fed up with how challenging their life is and how meaningless their life has become. And many don’t believe me when I tell them that by the end of the process that they will personally grow, and that their life will change so much for the better – and they all do. This process or formulae for a better word is the process that I have put in my new book, Heal Your Mind, Heal Your Life. I wrote this book specifically to develop these three important life skills and designed it to provide you with the step-by-step process that I have used all these years with my private clients. As you read through my book everything will suddenly dawn on you. You will understand why life has been so challenging for you, and you will understand what you need to do to change it. If you are ready to change your life, then [ClickHere] to buy my book either as an e-book, or print version from Amazon.
